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What No One Tells You About Grieving the Loss of a Child
Losing a child is a devastating and life-altering experience. It can feel like your world has collapsed, leaving you with overwhelming grief, guilt, and loneliness. The pain of missing your child never goes away, and life feels forever changed. Others may avoid talking about your child or say the wrong things, making it even harder. Grief isn’t a straight line—it’s messy, ongoing, and deeply personal. Milestones and reminders of what could have been can trigger waves of sorrow, but your love for your child remains. Even in their absence, you are still their parent. Support groups can offer a safe space to connect with others who truly understand, helping you feel less alone as you navigate this new reality.
You’re Not Broken: How Trauma Changes the Brain, Not Your Worth
If you’ve experienced trauma, you may feel confused, overwhelmed, or even disconnected—but these are normal, human responses to deeply distressing events. Trauma can leave lasting effects on the brain and body, often keeping us in a state of alert long after the danger has passed. These reactions aren’t signs of weakness—they are your body’s way of trying to protect you. Healing isn’t about “getting over it” or going back to who you were before. It’s about understanding your experiences with compassion, reconnecting with yourself, and moving forward with strength and support. Beyond Trauma: A Healing Journey for Women offers a safe, empowering space for women to heal together, with the reminder that you are not broken—you are worthy, and your healing is possible.
Avoidance in Therapy
You’ve found a therapist, committed to sessions, and built trust—yet when it’s time to talk about the hard stuff, you just can’t seem to “go there.” If that sounds familiar, you’re not alone. This common experience is often rooted in avoidance, a protective response from your brain to shield you from overwhelming emotions. While it may offer short-term relief, long-term avoidance can lead to increased anxiety, depression, and feeling stuck. The good news? There are trauma-informed therapies like EMDR, ACT, and CBT that can help you work through avoidance gently and effectively. Read more to understand this pattern and how to move forward with compassion and support.
A Day in the Life: What Happens During an EMDR Intensive
EMDR intensive therapy is a focused, immersive approach to healing trauma that compresses months of traditional therapy into just a few days. Designed to reduce symptoms quickly, it’s especially helpful for those with PTSD, anxiety, depression, or a history of trauma who feel stuck in weekly sessions. The day includes setting clear goals, grounding exercises, deep trauma processing with EMDR techniques, regular breaks, and aftercare planning. While the work can be intense, many clients experience powerful shifts and lasting relief. If you're ready for change and want faster progress, an EMDR intensive may be the right fit.
When Fireworks Don’t Feel Festive: Why the Fourth of July Can Trigger Trauma (And What You Can Do About It)
For some, the 4th of July is a day of fun and celebration. But for others, it can be deeply triggering—filled with loud noises, flashing lights, and unexpected reminders of past trauma. Whether you’ve experienced community violence, childhood trauma, or simply feel overwhelmed by sensory input, you’re not alone.
Our latest blog explores why this holiday can be difficult for many people and how EMDR Intensives can offer a powerful path to healing. If the 4th feels more like survival mode than celebration, this might be a helpful read for you.
Is An EMDR Intensive Right For You? 7 Questions To Ask Yourself
An EMDR Intensive is a focused, accelerated approach to healing trauma. Instead of weekly sessions, intensives deliver several hours of EMDR therapy over just a few days—ideal for those with specific trauma, limited schedules, or who feel stuck in traditional therapy. This concentrated format allows deeper processing, quicker symptom relief, and can be especially helpful for people with complex trauma or chronic stress. With proper preparation and support, EMDR intensives can create powerful, lasting shifts in a shorter time. If you're ready for meaningful change, this could be a great next step.
Summer Mindfulness Activities for Kids
Summer is a perfect time for children to explore, play, and grow—and it’s also a great opportunity to introduce mindfulness in fun, simple ways. While the season brings excitement, the shift in routine can lead to overstimulation or anxiety. Mindfulness helps kids slow down, connect with their senses, and enjoy the present moment. In this blog, we share playful activities like nature walks, rainbow hunts, bubble blowing, coloring, and water play to help kids build focus, self-awareness, and emotional regulation—all while having fun!
What to Expect During a Neuro-Affirming Evaluation
Our evaluation process is designed to be supportive, thorough, and personalized. It begins with an intake form and a one-on-one virtual intake session to set goals and gather background information. Testing takes place in person and can last 3–6 hours, with a mix of digital and interactive assessments. Afterward, you'll receive a virtual feedback session with results, insights, and a personalized action plan. A full report follows about a month later, which can be used for school, work, or ongoing care.
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5 Myths About EMDR Intensives (and the Truths You Need to Know)
EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) Intensives are often misunderstood, but they can be a highly effective alternative to traditional weekly therapy—especially for clients needing focused, deeper healing. Rather than “cramming” sessions, intensives are thoughtfully structured for safe and supported emotional processing. They're not just for severe trauma; clients have successfully used intensives for anxiety, relationship issues, grief, phobias, and more. Grounded in neuroscience and tailored to individual needs, EMDR Intensives offer clarity, healing, and long-term tools in a shorter time, often making them a more practical and cost-effective option.
Carrying the Mental Load: The “Work” of Relationships
When couples move in together, they often talk about big things like money and chores—but it's the small, everyday tasks that can cause stress. Things like remembering appointments, picking up a gift, or noticing when something needs to be done often go unspoken. Over time, one partner may end up carrying most of this mental load, which can lead to frustration and burnout. The key to fixing this imbalance is open, respectful communication—sharing how you feel, asking for help, and staying curious about each other. A strong relationship grows through teamwork and honest conversations.
What Is Trauma and How Can a Group Help Me Heal?
Trauma is not just the event itself, but the lasting emotional and physiological impact it has on a person. It can result from both single incidents and prolonged stressors, often affecting how we feel, think, and relate to others. While trauma can show up in everyday life in hidden ways, healing is possible—and community plays a powerful role in that process. Group therapy provides a safe, supportive space for individuals to connect, share, and heal together. Through shared stories and mutual understanding, participants can rediscover resilience, build trust, and reclaim their sense of self.
Understanding Obsessive Compulsive Disorder
OCD can be hard to understand and even harder to talk about—especially for kids. It often starts with intrusive thoughts (obsessions) that create anxiety, followed by repetitive actions (compulsions) meant to relieve that anxiety. This cycle can feel overwhelming. OCD looks different for everyone and can show up alongside other challenges like anxiety, depression, or ADHD. Getting a diagnosis through a mental health professional can be a helpful and validating step. With the right support—like therapy and sometimes medication—OCD can be managed. Most importantly, you’re not alone, and your experiences are valid.
EMDR Preparation: What Early EMDR Therapy Might Look Like
While EMDR is known for its ability to help individuals process trauma, many are surprised to learn that therapy doesn’t begin with memory desensitization right away. Instead, it starts with a crucial preparation phase focused on building safety, trust, and emotional resilience. Establishing a secure relationship with the therapist helps clients feel seen, heard, and supported. During this phase, clients also learn grounding and emotional regulation skills, along with body awareness techniques that are essential for managing intense emotions later in treatment. The length of preparation varies widely—ranging from a few sessions to several months—depending on the individual’s needs. Although it may feel slow at times, this foundational work is key to ensuring EMDR is safe, effective, and truly healing.
Understanding the Safe and Sound Protocol for Managing Dissociation
Dissociation, a common trauma response, can be hard to treat using traditional methods. The Safe and Sound Protocol (SSP), developed by Dr. Stephen Porges, offers a promising alternative by using specially filtered music to gently regulate the nervous system. This approach helps individuals move out of dissociative states—such as emotional numbness or feeling disconnected from the body—by stimulating the vagus nerve and enhancing feelings of safety. SSP supports the brain’s ability to process sensory and emotional information, making it easier to feel present and connected. For those with significant dissociation, SSP can be customized to shorter, supported sessions and paired with grounding tools. While not a standalone solution, it complements other therapies and can be a powerful step toward healing and reconnection.
Burnout in Neurodivergent Individuals: Unique Challenges and Healing Paths
Burnout can be especially intense for neurodivergent individuals, showing up through heightened sensory overwhelm, loss of interest in special passions, and a breakdown in everyday functioning. Efforts to “mask” and appear neurotypical often become unsustainable, leading to exhaustion and collapse. Recovery means honoring your unique needs—creating sensory-friendly spaces, simplifying tasks, seeking accommodations, and redefining rest in ways that actually help. Healing is not about fixing yourself but creating a life that works with your brain, not against it. It’s a nonlinear process, but with compassion and the right support, recovery is absolutely possible.
Healing Money Trauma: Understanding and Overcoming Financial Wounds
Money trauma is the emotional and psychological distress caused by past financial experiences, such as childhood poverty, job loss, or family beliefs about money. It can show up in subtle ways like anxiety, shame, avoidance, overspending, or under-earning, often without us realizing it. Healing money trauma isn’t just about managing money better—it’s about understanding your money story, identifying emotional triggers, and shifting limiting beliefs. With awareness, support, and self-compassion, you can begin to build a healthier and more empowered relationship with money, one small step at a time.
Healing Attachment Wounds: Understanding and Moving Toward Secure Attachment
Attachment is how we form and maintain emotional connections with others, and it starts in childhood with our caregivers. When those early needs for safety and comfort aren't met, we can develop patterns—called attachment wounds—that affect how we relate to others later in life. These wounds can lead to different attachment styles, like anxious, avoidant, or disorganized. The good news is that healing is possible. Through self-awareness, supportive relationships, therapy, and learning to manage emotions, we can build healthier connections and feel more secure in our relationships.
Nurturing Yourself: How Self-Care Can Prevent Burnout and Boost Well-Being
In our fast-paced lives, self-care often takes a backseat, leading to stress, burnout, and both physical and mental health challenges. Prioritizing our well-being isn’t selfish—it’s essential for maintaining balance and being fully present for ourselves and others. Simple self-care practices like mindfulness, movement, rest, and setting boundaries can greatly improve overall health. However, self-care also includes recognizing when additional support is needed. Seeking help from a mental health professional is a powerful step toward healing and growth. Taking care of yourself is not a luxury—it’s a necessity.
Navigating Life’s Changes: Embracing Growth and Compassion
Change is a part of life, and while it can be challenging, it also brings opportunities for growth. Our thoughts shape how we feel and respond to change, so recognizing and reframing negative thinking can help. While we can’t always control change, we can control our mindset and actions. Practicing self-care, allowing ourselves to process emotions, and seeking support when needed can make transitions easier. You’re not alone—help and resources are available to guide you through life’s changes.